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上大学落单咋办?7招帮你找到小伙伴!
来源:21英语网    日期: 2014-08-28

  

   秋风飒爽,鸟语阵阵,又到了一波大学新生欢脱地奔向校园的时候了。不过,新鲜不了多久,小盆友们就会发现大学里一个人上课、吃饭、上自习,时常有种被抛弃的赶脚,外加身边的学霸如同神祗一般的存在,原来向往的校园新生活如今毫无适应感可言……其实,大学里落单是常事儿,只要掌握了下面这些对策,你一定会在新校园里找到小伙伴哒~
  
   1. 别因为感到孤单,就拿自己当非正常人类。
   Realize that it’s normal for you to be lonely

  

   孤单久了,精神就不正常了吗?很多人进了大学,都会有种莫名的孤独感。这个时候,表慌!更没必要担心自己有毛病。学会正视这种情绪,摆正心态与人交往才是你大学不会落单的第一步。
  
   The trick here is to not take it personal. Many people do get lonely in their college years, even if they hide it. It has nothing to do with who you are, it’s just a period of your life when the level of loneliness sky rockets.
  
   But there are things you can do. And the first thing, is to consider those emotions of loneliness as normal. If you think you get lonely because there is something wrong with you, you’ll only hide yourself from people, and thus make yourself even lonelier. Whatever you do, don’t isolate yourself further, making the problem worse.
  
   2. 不要和校园红人攀比。
   Don’t compare yourself with the most popular people

  

   感到孤单,没盆友?再拿自己和学校里最受欢迎的人物比一比……那简直就是自虐!其实,大部分人还是只有三五好友结伴而行的。如果你想要更多的小伙伴,先珍惜好眼前的友情再说吧!
  
   If you’re lonely, or lack friends, you’re more likely to compare yourself with the “cool kids”. That’s what the statistics say. If you only compare your social life and the quality of your friendships with the most connected people in campus, you’re doing yourself a disservice.
  
   Instead, look closer. Most people in college don’t have 50 friends who are dying to hang out. Most just have a couple or one friend that they regularly talk to. Most people are bored in college, and actually want some more company.
  
   3. 总有人和你有共同点,快去发现吧!
   Leverage on commonalities

  

   志同道合的小伙伴们最容易走在一起。你们可以是老乡、是某部剧的粉丝、有着相同的爱好、或者大爱某些课程,甚至一起讨厌某位教授。总之,你一定会在他们身上看到自己的影子。
  
   It’s easier to hang out with people who have things in common with you. E.g. same class, same hatred (or love) for a professor or a course, same hometown, same preferred TV series, same hobby, etc.
  
   4. 身在校园,心怀地球。
   Think outside the campus

  

   想要在大学里多交朋友,心里别光想着学校那点事儿。学校外面的世界也很精彩。如果你能打开眼界,多点儿谈资,自然会有更多的童鞋喜欢和你聊天。
  
   If you want to make friends in college, you have to think outside of it, as well. Avoid keeping the conversations around college stuff, ask and discuss things outside, and make plans outside of that context. Don’t be the sort of buddy they only talk to when they have something to say about college, be a friend they can talk to about anything.
  
   5. 介绍小伙伴们互相认识,你永远也不会孤单。
   Connect people and you’ll never be lonely again

  

   越是精辟的道理,越是容易被人忘记。别人的朋友也可以成为你的朋友,所以相聚在一起时,别忘了介绍大家互相认识,慢慢你就会发现自己的朋友圈越来越大。
  
   Even seasoned grown-ups forget this powerful principle. When you bring people together, create plans involving more than one person, and introduce people to each other, everyone just sticks around. You get appreciated for that sense of initiative, and people stick around longer, as a group has more “gravitational power” than you by yourself.
  
   6. 做个谦虚的人,朋友会更多。
   All doors open if you’re humble

  

   虽说个性、自我、略带傲娇,可能会显得有魅力。但现实生活中,如果你能把自我hold住,别太张扬,或许能收获更多的友谊。想想谁会愿意和一个趾高气扬的人做朋友呢?
  
   I know, conventional advice say that you’re not supposed to be nice, and cockiness is attractive. That’s cute, but in the real world, you get a lot more advantage if you keep your ego at home, and avoid arrogance at all costs. Never let anyone think that you think you’re better than them.
  
   Always assume you’re at the same level (or same social status) than everyone else. When you do that, humble people, arrogant ones, popular, or losers, they all love you. You make them feel comfortable.
  
   7. 别抱着社交秘籍看了,快点行动起来吧!
   There’s no social skills 101

  

   虽说交朋友这件事什么时候都能做,但在校园里结下的友情却更加长久。快快把握好这段黄金时光,锻炼一下你的社交能力吧!
  
   Do yourself a favor, and make a commitment to learn and sharpen social skills during your college years. It’s your golden opportunity to learn how to make friends, make conversations, have fun, and build long-lasting friendships.
  
   It’s your golden opportunity to learn what makes someone have a happy social life, no matter what your personality is like. You obviously don’t need to be a loud larger-than-life extrovert to make friends. You need to practice and grow your social skills.
    





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